South Asian Therapy, Online Anywhere in California
For Indian and South Asian adults, couples, and families who want a therapist who already understands the culture, so sessions can start with what’s actually hurting.
You have so much to be grateful for. So why do you feel like this?
Your family gave up a lot so you could have this life. You’ve known that for as long as you can remember, and it’s part of why it’s so hard to say you’re not okay.
Maybe you’ve been anxious for years and call it being busy. Maybe you’re the one who translates, mediates, sends money, and shows up, and nobody asks how you’re doing. Where you grew up, you got through hard things and kept them private. Log kya kahenge? What will people say?
“Just set a boundary” is advice for a different family
Maybe you’ve tried therapy and spent the sessions explaining why you can’t simply say no to your mother, why your parents still have a say in your marriage, or why moving out was never a simple decision.
Love, duty, and guilt can all show up in one phone call. Your therapist should understand that from the start. They also shouldn’t assume anything. South Asia is many cultures, and yours is one family with its own story, so we’ll ask.
What we can work on together
People come to us for anxiety, depression, and burnout, and for what sits underneath them:
- Family. Pressure, comparison, guilt, and being the one who holds everyone together.
- Marriage and in-laws. Arranged or love marriages, joint families, and intercultural relationships.
- Identity. Living between two cultures, and being Desi and LGBTQIA+ in a family that may not know.
- Immigration. Grief for the home you left, aging parents far away, visa uncertainty, layoffs, and fear about your status.
- Work. Microaggressions, perfectionism, and a career you may not have chosen for yourself.
- What gets passed down. Intergenerational trauma, attachment wounds, and how you were raised showing up in how you parent.
You don’t have to choose between your family and yourself
Too often, the choices sound like giving in or cutting people off. Many people want neither. Therapy can help you work out what you can say no to, what you want to keep, and how to live with the guilt that comes up either way.
Some of this work you’ll do on your own in individual therapy. Some of it goes better with others in the room. Couples therapy can help when your families and expectations have come between you. Family therapy can help relatives talk differently, including a parent who has never believed in therapy.
How to get started
- Have a free 15-minute conversation. Tell one of our therapists what’s going on and what you’re looking for.
- Get matched. We pair you with a therapist on our team based on what you need and who you’d be comfortable with.
- Start sessions. Meet by telehealth from anywhere in California, or in person in Santa Clara by appointment. See billing and fees.
Questions you may have
Will my family or community find out?
What you say in therapy is confidential, with a few legal exceptions related to safety that your therapist will explain at the start. You can meet by telehealth from wherever you have privacy, and whether you tell anyone is up to you.
Will my therapist be South Asian?
Tell us on your free call what matters to you, and we’ll be straightforward about who on our team is the best fit. Some people want a therapist from their community. Others would rather talk to someone outside it. Both make sense.
Will therapy turn me against my family?
Your therapist won’t ask you to blame your parents or walk away from them. You can love your family, understand what they went through, and still want something to change.
Can you help a parent or spouse who doesn’t believe in therapy?
Often, yes. In family or couples sessions, we can explain what therapy is and what it isn’t, and start from what they’re worried about.
Can I talk about my visa or immigration fears?
Yes. The stress of waiting, layoffs, and uncertainty is welcome here. Your therapist can’t give legal advice, so for questions about your case, you’ll want an immigration attorney.
Do you take insurance?
We’re a private-pay practice and don’t bill insurance. You’ll know the cost before anything starts.
You can start without explaining everything
Begin with whatever feels easiest to say. The rest can wait.
If you are in crisis, call or text 988.