Couples Therapy in Santa Clara,CA
I work with couples who feel stuck in the same arguments, disconnected, or unsure if they can rebuild trust. Whether you're navigating a specific crisis or feeling the slow drift of distance, couples therapy helps you understand the patterns keeping you apart and build new ways of connecting.
How We Work Together
In our first few sessions, we'll identify the cycles that aren't working. The pursuer-distancer dynamic, the shutdown after conflict, the resentment that's built up over time. We'll map out what each of you needs and build a plan that addresses the relationship, not just individual complaints.
Throughout our work, I help you communicate in ways that actually land, repair after ruptures, and create a relationship where both people feel seen. If something isn't working in therapy, we adjust. The goal is a relationship that feels different, not just more managed.
Treatment Specialities
Communication breakdowns and recurring conflicts
Trust and infidelity recovery
Emotional disconnection and intimacy issues
Life transitions (parenthood, career changes, relocation)
Differences in conflict styles and attachment patterns
Resentment and unresolved hurt
Pre-marital counseling and relationship strengthening
Considering separation or divorce
Blended family challenges
Cultural and value differences
I use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), the Gottman Method, and attachment-based approaches to help couples break out of negative cycles and rebuild connection. Treatment is collaborative and adapted to what your relationship actually needs, not a scripted program.
You'll learn to recognize your patterns, communicate without defensiveness, and repair when things go sideways. This isn't about who's right or learning communication techniques that feel forced. It's about understanding what's underneath the conflict and creating safety so both people can show up honestly.