For the things you’ve been handling on your own.
Book a free 15-minute consultationNot sure? See the signs men often missMost men don’t come to therapy saying they’re depressed. They come because they’re short with the people they love. Because work has taken over. Because a marriage is strained, or over. Because sleep is bad and the drinks are more frequent and nothing feels like it used to.
Those are real reasons to talk to someone. You don’t need a diagnosis or a crisis to start.
At Satva, we work with men directly and practically. We’ll figure out what is going on, what you want to be different, and how to get there. Some men work with us on their own. Others bring a partner or family into the room when that’s where the problem lives.
We see men in person at our Santa Clara office in the South Bay, and online anywhere in California.
The reasons are rarely tidy. Here are the ones we hear most.
You carry a lot, and most of it quietly: the job, the mortgage, the people counting on you. Over time the pressure stops feeling like pressure and starts feeling like who you are. We help you see what you are carrying, put some of it down, and build a pace you can actually sustain.
Often sounds like: “I’m fine, just busy.” “I can’t remember the last time I wasn’t tired.”
In men, depression often shows up as irritability, numbness, working all the time, or losing interest in things that used to matter. Many men never feel “sad” and so never think the word applies. If the color has drained out of things, that is worth taking seriously.
Often sounds like: “Nothing’s really wrong. I just don’t care about much anymore.”
Snapping at your kids. Arguments that escalate faster than you meant them to. Anger is often the one feeling men were allowed to show, so other feelings get routed through it. We work on what sits underneath, and on practical ways to stay steady when it rises.
Often sounds like: “I don’t know why I react like that.”
Running scenarios at 2 a.m. Tightness in your chest before a meeting. Checking, planning, over-preparing. Anxiety in men is often written off as being driven or responsible, until it starts costing sleep, health and relationships.
Often sounds like: “I just think ahead a lot.”
The same fight on repeat. Distance where there used to be closeness. A partner who says you shut down or don’t open up, and you aren’t sure what they are asking for. We can work with you alone, or with both of you in couples therapy.
Often sounds like: “She says I don’t talk. I don’t know what to say.”
The end of a relationship can take your home, your daily time with your kids, your finances and your social circle in one go. Men often go through it alone and try to push through. This is one of the riskiest times in a man’s life to do that.
Often sounds like: “I’m just trying to get through the paperwork.”
About one in ten new fathers experiences depression around the birth of a child, and few are ever asked about it. Fatherhood also stirs up how you were raised. We help with the transition to parenthood, co-parenting, and the kind of father you want to be.
Often sounds like: “Everyone’s asking about the baby and my wife. I’m supposed to be the steady one.”
The friends from school and early work drift away, and nothing replaces them. For many men, a partner becomes the only person they really talk to. That is a lot to rest on one relationship, and it leaves you exposed when that relationship is under strain.
Often sounds like: “I have people. I just don’t really talk to anyone.”
A layoff, a stalled career, a business that failed, retirement. When so much of who you are is tied to what you do, losing the role can feel like losing yourself. We help you rebuild a sense of purpose that doesn’t rise and fall with a job title.
Often sounds like: “I don’t know who I am if I’m not working.”
A few more drinks than before. Hours lost to screens, gambling or porn. Often these start as ways to cope with something else. We look at what they are doing for you, and what you would need in their place.
Often sounds like: “It’s how I unwind.”
We keep it direct. In the first few sessions we get clear on what is happening, what it is costing you, and what you want to be different. Then we work toward it, with practical tools you can use between sessions and an honest read on progress.
You won’t be asked to perform feelings you don’t have. Plenty of men start by talking about a problem at work or at home, and that is a fine place to begin.
One-on-one sessions focused on you: stress, mood, anger, identity, what’s next.
Individual therapyCouples therapy when the strain lives between you, or when your partner has been asking you to come.
Couples therapyFamily sessions for fatherhood, co-parenting after separation, or tension with grown children or parents.
Family therapyMost men wait until things are at a breaking point. You don’t have to. If something has been bothering you for more than a few weeks, or the people close to you have noticed a change, that is reason enough to talk.
We’ll talk about what’s going on, and feelings are part of that. But sessions are also practical: patterns, decisions, communication, and specific things to try during the week.
It depends on what you’re working on. Some men come for a focused stretch around one issue. Others stay longer. We check in on progress regularly so it never feels open-ended.
It’s a good sign that someone cares enough to ask. You can start on your own, come together for couples therapy, or do both. The free consultation is a low-pressure way to figure out which fits.
Yes. Book a consultation and we can talk through how to raise it with him, or how to support him while he decides.
A free 15-minute call. No commitment, no pressure. We’ll listen to what’s going on and help you decide on a next step.
Book a free consultationIf you are in crisis or thinking about ending your life, call or text 988 to reach the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, or call 911.